Grief and Spirituality

Even the most faithful of faiths and belief-systems have had the foundations of their existence challenged by death for millenniums. Just ask anyone who has suffered a devastating loss, and you will find many who agree. I, along with millions of others across the world was shocked when letters written by by Mother Theresa of Calcutta revealed that she was long-tormented by doubts in her faith, having witnessed so much suffering and death firsthand during her lifetime. Yet it is these very doubts that reaffirm the human nature in Mother Theresa (and all of us), and ultimately bears witness to the great strength of her faith. After all, did she not persevere with her work to alleviate suffering until her final days, despite all of her tormenting doubts?

Having one’s faith challenged by a devastating loss is not uncommon and, in fact, seems quite a natural response to the death of a loved one that brings such great pain and so many unanswerable questions. It is okay to be angry with your god if that is what you feel, because all feelings are valid. For the greatness in God is in knowing that He understands your anger and doubts, and most surely expects them.

In the end it is reconciliation, one way or another, which really matters. Perhaps you will relinquish your faith in the face of adversity and travel a new path; or maybe you will explore your faith in a new light and persevere like Mother Theresa, despite your doubts.

These questions have plagued the masses since the beginnings of humankind, but they also open new paths that can lead to great spiritual growth, peace and solace through life’s challenges. To doubt is simply human nature.

 

John Pete, GC-C, is a Certified Grief Counselor and Founder of www.MyGriefSpace.Net